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Gender reassignment and relationships - Inori - 05-23-2016
I'm personally fairly uncomfortable with my gender, and I've thought about reassignment when I get older. One of the only drawbacks I can think of is how that might impact any current romantic relationships I might have going at the time. There's the cliche "if they love you, they won't care", but deep down, we all know that doesn't really apply.
How do you guys see that panning out? At this point and for the next few years, it's only hypothetical for me, but who knows.
RE: Gender reassignment and relationships - Inori - 05-23-2016
(05-23-2016, 06:52 AM)Ayumi Wrote: Personally I'd be attracted to what a person identifies as (doesn't really matter because I'm bi or pan or whatever the fuck I am).
Same with me; I'm bi, so I don't see that as an issue if a partner goes MtF or FtM, but heterosexual people have a completely different view, so I'd be a tad screwed.
RE: Gender reassignment and relationships - Oni - 05-23-2016
(05-23-2016, 06:59 AM)Inori Wrote: Same with me; I'm bi, so I don't see that as an issue if a partner goes MtF or FtM, but heterosexual people have a completely different view, so I'd be a tad screwed.
Sounds like you're SOL if your partner is straight.
RE: Gender reassignment and relationships - typhoid - 05-23-2016
are you talking about the surgery or just a permanent transition to the gender you identify as? ur wording confuses me
if ur talking about the surgery then unless they are an "admirer' or a "chaser" you might not have much to worry about
if you just mean transitioning then if your significant other likes the gender you were born as and not the gender you identify as its probably not going to work out unless you got some srs l ron hubbart psychomanipulation magic
so be very prepared that your going to have to break it off or that it will eventually come to an end by itself as your transition progresses
personal experience, i broke up with my straight gf at the time before i transitioned . even if we hadnt she would have had to see the person she fell in love with become a girl she could never be physically interested in while trying to hold together a love that weighs closer and closer to nothing everyday so it was better we broke it off sooner than later . she was heartbroken at first but understood in the end and we are still very much special friends.
RE: Gender reassignment and relationships - Bish0pQ - 05-23-2016
I know someone who is currently changing her gender, but it takes pretty long I must say. They have to inject a lot of hormones, also she had an operation a few weeks back and she couldn't walk for 2 weeks.
Point is, you can't "just" change gender, it takes a lot of time, but I certainly think that a good, healthy relationship is possible, with or without gender change.
Anyway, I think everyone should do what they have to do to be happy. If that means changing gender, you should do it.
RE: Gender reassignment and relationships - Dozy Van - 05-23-2016
I talked to my two friends about this. One was trans FtM and the other was just a guy. As far as he was conserned when his "Girlfriend" became a guy he went from being strate to bi.
I honestly don't think he really taught much about it untill I posed the question. I was kinda wondering if he considered what he was doing with his now "boyfriend" to be gay (He still has female organs). I think he still in his mind see's what hes doing as what a usual hetrosexual male does.
I think that if your dating someone who identifies as the same gender as you, you should probably be identifying as bi.
(05-23-2016, 06:34 AM)Inori Wrote: we all know that doesn't really apply.
If my girfriend came out to me as "trans" 2morrow I would identify as bisexual openly. At least it shows that I am supportive in what she's going through.
RE: Gender reassignment and relationships - meow - 05-24-2016
You're a boy or a girl, get over it special snowflake.
RE: Gender reassignment and relationships - Inori - 05-24-2016
(05-24-2016, 10:24 PM)meow Wrote: You're a boy or a girl, get over it special snowflake.
There's nothing special snowflake-y about this. I'm not deciding whether I'm a binary gender (or whatever the fuck Tumblr calls male and female) or an attack helicopter or something stupid like that.
Think before you post, especially in this sub.