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I was cheated on... - Zurchi - 01-08-2014
So I just found out that I was cheated on by my girlfriend of 7 months.
It was in the first couple weeks of our relationship with her ex. She just told me today. And I'm an emotional wreck and I don't know what to do.
Help.
RE: I was cheated on... - Lone Wanderer_HF - 01-08-2014
Listen mate, you should evaluate if it was just a silly fling and she's been faithful for the rest or if shes being cheating. Just remember she has admitted herself so it looks like she felt guilty about the one thing because if she's admitting she would admit to more if she was cheating a lot. Just try and sit with her and talk at where you are now and how she feels about it.
RE: I was cheated on... - Eternal Minds - 01-08-2014
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qd8-IYovLRQ
Tbh, just be happy you weren't married to her.
RE: I was cheated on... - Singularity - 01-08-2014
Hey man look on the bright side.
She loves you so much that she decided to tell you.
It was eating away at her.
If it happens again dont think twice about dumping her.
RE: I was cheated on... - Mod Mark - 01-09-2014
Once a cheat, always a cheat. That is all I can say.
RE: I was cheated on... - Not SpaceGhost - 01-09-2014
(01-08-2014, 01:52 AM)Zurchi Wrote: So I just found out that I was cheated on by my girlfriend of 7 months.
It was in the first couple weeks of our relationship with her ex. She just told me today. And I'm an emotional wreck and I don't know what to do.
Help.
You can forgive but you will never forget. Think with logic, rather than emotion right now. Your girl might have been stuck between the two of you, and found out that you were the one she wanted. She's telling you because she wants a clean slate and because this issue has been nipping at her subconsciously. The problem with her telling you now is that there were six there months in which she could have told you.
What I would do is ask her why it took so long for her to tell you.
RE: I was cheated on... - Zurchi - 01-09-2014
(01-09-2014, 08:37 AM)Love Wrote: You can forgive but you will never forget. Think with logic, rather than emotion right now. Your girl might have been stuck between the two of you, and found out that you were the one she wanted. She's telling you because she wants a clean slate and because this issue has been nipping at her subconsciously. The problem with her telling you now is that there were six there months in which she could have told you.
What I would do is ask her why it took so long for her to tell you.
Well, the night she cheated on me. I broke up with her the day after.
Then we got back together and she said hiding it was one of the best decisions she's made because she still has me. Where if she would of told me then, we would of never gotten back together. Which is true.
I just forgave her and decided to move on. It still goes through my head every second though.
RE: I was cheated on... - Not SpaceGhost - 01-09-2014
(01-09-2014, 08:39 AM)Zurchi Wrote: Well, the night she cheated on me. I broke up with her the day after.
Then we got back together and she said hiding it was one of the best decisions she's made because she still has me. Where if she would of told me then, we would of never gotten back together. Which is true.
I just forgave her and decided to move on. It still goes through my head every second though.
Is there something you are insecure about in your relationship? The reason it keeps coming up is probably the fear that it will happen again. Your relationship will hardly ever grow until you face your fears and begin to trust the girl we are speaking about.
Is trust the issue that is giving you a hard time?
RE: I was cheated on... - Grin - 01-09-2014
If you are under 20, break up you still have a ton of time to meet another girl. If you're over 20, break up you still have a ton of time to meet another girl. If you could pull one girl, I'm assuming you can pull another so my advice is definitely to break up.
RE: I was cheated on... - Not SpaceGhost - 01-09-2014
(01-09-2014, 09:02 AM)Grin Wrote: If you are under 20, break up you still have a ton of time to meet another girl. If you're over 20, break up you still have a ton of time to meet another girl. If you could pull one girl, I'm assuming you can pull another so my advice is definitely to break up.
In my opinion that is not thinking rationally. Just because he can get another girl doesn't necessarily mean he will feel what he feels now with this girl.