(07-20-2018, 12:35 PM)reGEN Wrote:

(07-20-2018, 12:03 PM)mothered Wrote:

(07-20-2018, 11:26 AM)reGEN Wrote: I also have fears of people betraying or not accepting me for who I am.

I believe everyone has some element of this, without even realizing.

Betrayal and lack of recognition Is not acceptable In anyone's language.

Of course, but I really feel a bit strongly of the greedy nature of humans. I acknowledge that there are selfless and caring people but I'm still unsure about the volatility of emotions. I mean, I probably wouldn't trust myself. On top of that, I feel that I'm not good enough for others or that I'm going to screw something up. But I'm always trying to improve who I am. Also, I'd like to add that I feel very strongly about being an ultra uninteresting person and a bit socially inept.  

Quote:I feel that I'm not good enough for others or that I'm going to screw something up

(07-20-2018, 02:50 PM)mothered Wrote: The following Indicates you may have Insecurities:

Quote:I feel that I'm not good enough for others or that I'm going to screw something up

If It Is the case, nothing wrong with being Insecure. We all have It. Personally, when I do my utmost best to fulfill the needs of others and they see otherwise, that's their Issue not mine. It's something they need to deal with- within themselves.

(07-20-2018, 03:54 PM)reGEN Wrote:

(07-20-2018, 02:50 PM)mothered Wrote: The following Indicates you may have Insecurities:

Quote:I feel that I'm not good enough for others or that I'm going to screw something up

If It Is the case, nothing wrong with being Insecure. We all have It. Personally, when I do my utmost best to fulfill the needs of others and they see otherwise, that's their Issue not mine. It's something they need to deal with- within themselves.

Mmm, I am aware that I'm not the only person with insecurities and I guess that I keep looking back on the past and instinctively want to avoid repetitions of bad experiences but should instead look to learn from them and act differently the next time around. I also realize that the reason I might be feeling "not good enough" is because I compare my failures with others' successes. I should really just trust myself more and to just give it my best because if I can't do anything if I've given everything. I understand that I don't dictate how others should treat me they way I feel like they should and that if they don't accept who I am then there's nothing I can do about it. I don't know why but I just feel like I've got something to lose but I don't have anything to lose? Or maybe I'm thinking way too far ahead and thinking about what I could lose if I engage with people? I don't know. Also, talking about these personal feelings of mine is something that I don't really like to do because I feel like I'm just being an inconvenience or that no one really cares. Oh well, it's whatever. I'll just keep doing my own thing in my own little bubble.  

Quote:the reason I might be feeling "not good enough" is because I compare my failures with others' successes

(07-20-2018, 04:17 PM)mothered Wrote:

(07-20-2018, 03:54 PM)reGEN Wrote:

(07-20-2018, 02:50 PM)mothered Wrote: The following Indicates you may have Insecurities:

If It Is the case, nothing wrong with being Insecure. We all have It. Personally, when I do my utmost best to fulfill the needs of others and they see otherwise, that's their Issue not mine. It's something they need to deal with- within themselves.

Mmm, I am aware that I'm not the only person with insecurities and I guess that I keep looking back on the past and instinctively want to avoid repetitions of bad experiences but should instead look to learn from them and act differently the next time around. I also realize that the reason I might be feeling "not good enough" is because I compare my failures with others' successes. I should really just trust myself more and to just give it my best because if I can't do anything if I've given everything. I understand that I don't dictate how others should treat me they way I feel like they should and that if they don't accept who I am then there's nothing I can do about it. I don't know why but I just feel like I've got something to lose but I don't have anything to lose? Or maybe I'm thinking way too far ahead and thinking about what I could lose if I engage with people? I don't know. Also, talking about these personal feelings of mine is something that I don't really like to do because I feel like I'm just being an inconvenience or that no one really cares. Oh well, it's whatever. I'll just keep doing my own thing in my own little bubble.  

Everyone has different coping mechanisms and their way of handling things, so If being open of how you feel alleviates your Inner-feelings, you're on the right track.

We're all accountable for our own experiences and responsible for our actions. When you start comparing yourself to others, they take priority hence rather than focusing on your self-worth, your emotions shift toward their attributes & success and that's when this becomes part of the equation:

Quote:the reason I might be feeling "not good enough" is because I compare my failures with others' successes

If you know what you're worth, that's all that matters.

(07-20-2018, 04:29 PM)reGEN Wrote:

(07-20-2018, 04:17 PM)mothered Wrote:

(07-20-2018, 03:54 PM)reGEN Wrote: Mmm, I am aware that I'm not the only person with insecurities and I guess that I keep looking back on the past and instinctively want to avoid repetitions of bad experiences but should instead look to learn from them and act differently the next time around. I also realize that the reason I might be feeling "not good enough" is because I compare my failures with others' successes. I should really just trust myself more and to just give it my best because if I can't do anything if I've given everything. I understand that I don't dictate how others should treat me they way I feel like they should and that if they don't accept who I am then there's nothing I can do about it. I don't know why but I just feel like I've got something to lose but I don't have anything to lose? Or maybe I'm thinking way too far ahead and thinking about what I could lose if I engage with people? I don't know. Also, talking about these personal feelings of mine is something that I don't really like to do because I feel like I'm just being an inconvenience or that no one really cares. Oh well, it's whatever. I'll just keep doing my own thing in my own little bubble.  

Everyone has different coping mechanisms and their way of handling things, so If being open of how you feel alleviates your Inner-feelings, you're on the right track.

We're all accountable for our own experiences and responsible for our actions. When you start comparing yourself to others, they take priority hence rather than focusing on your self-worth, your emotions shift toward their attributes & success and that's when this becomes part of the equation:

Quote:the reason I might be feeling "not good enough" is because I compare my failures with others' successes

If you know what you're worth, that's all that matters.

I hope I know what I'm worth and I'm always wanting to get better. If anything, ending up in a position where I'm really good at something and making friends that way would probably be something I can imagine myself doing. Although the fear of not making it there, as I previously mentioned, is lurking over my shoulder. Anyway, thanks for being the cool guy that you are and listening.  

Gonna fade back into the shadows now.  

(07-20-2018, 04:32 PM)skrtja Wrote: My biggest fear is failure. I always feel like I'm competing. Even when I fail it's more of disappointment. So another fear would probably be me getting into a freak accident in a car or bike. I've already gotten into an accident on a bike so it's definitely something I still fear and almost got into two car crashes because of neglect of other drivers.

(07-20-2018, 04:32 PM)skrtja Wrote: My biggest fear is failure. I always feel like I'm competing.