(06-08-2021, 07:29 PM)d4ggm4sk Wrote:

(06-08-2021, 04:24 PM)Jiggly Wrote:

(06-07-2021, 10:24 PM)Oni Wrote: If you're young or looking for a relationship actively, a long distance one has a lot of challenges so I wouldn't recommend it for most people. However, if you do meet someone I'd at least recommend giving it a shot. For adults that are honest, with reasonable expectations - there's no reason not to try. We've been dating for almost 8 years and some marriages don't even last that long.

I'd say that's especially true for young people. You're so much more prone to hide things, only post the good pictures of yourself etc. Perhaps it's ok to meet online, but definitely make sure to meet up IRL early on.

this is why I dont use discord.

(06-08-2021, 09:48 PM)Jiggly Wrote:

(06-08-2021, 07:29 PM)d4ggm4sk Wrote:

(06-08-2021, 04:24 PM)Jiggly Wrote: I'd say that's especially true for young people. You're so much more prone to hide things, only post the good pictures of yourself etc. Perhaps it's ok to meet online, but definitely make sure to meet up IRL early on.

this is why I dont use discord.

I wasn't actually thinking of Discord at all. I meant more social media like Facebook/Instagram - AKA places where you have a bio, profile etc. Although, there's no reason it couldn't be applied to discord and other IM services. However, I'm not really sure why you need to not use discord if you're dating online?! It has no relevance what service you use, and Discord isn't a dating app.

(06-08-2021, 11:54 PM)d4ggm4sk Wrote:

(06-08-2021, 09:48 PM)Jiggly Wrote:

(06-08-2021, 07:29 PM)d4ggm4sk Wrote: this is why I dont use discord.

I wasn't actually thinking of Discord at all. I meant more social media like Facebook/Instagram - AKA places where you have a bio, profile etc. Although, there's no reason it couldn't be applied to discord and other IM services. However, I'm not really sure why you need to not use discord if you're dating online?! It has no relevance what service you use, and Discord isn't a dating app.

it sounded like you wanted to see pictures of him.
personally, I am gay because, gays get laid more, duh.
hooking up with a guy is as easy as say fish. if I want to hook up with a guy I can flirt with him
and then fuck with him the same day. but social media is another thing.
not all people want to be exposed to social media through forums. and then some will feel left out,
or compelled to partake anyway. hence, my small suggestion about being able to leave your IRC in contact info.

and by the way, IRC is way more cooler than any other

(06-07-2021, 06:36 PM)Oni Wrote: People tend to meet over common interests/activities, so doing what you enjoy is the best way to meet someone. Dating apps/forums tend to be entirely profile-driven, which isn't a great way to judge someone's personality or character.

(06-10-2021, 06:27 PM)vittring Wrote:

(06-07-2021, 06:36 PM)Oni Wrote: People tend to meet over common interests/activities, so doing what you enjoy is the best way to meet someone. Dating apps/forums tend to be entirely profile-driven, which isn't a great way to judge someone's personality or character.

It is, if you only have the intention of sleeping with them. Then it's very useful. You don't have to meet up, just look at their photos and decide. You figure this out in about 7 seconds and move on or jump on it. This is how basically all our brains are programmed and we can't defeat it without some neurological issues. It's chemical and physical. I don't personally use any of these apps because of my own OPSEC. I guess sex is a very sought after pleasure in life that some people are willing to give up their security for it or don't care that every dating profile gives your information on a silver platter.

(06-11-2021, 05:57 AM)Oni Wrote:

(06-10-2021, 06:27 PM)vittring Wrote:

(06-07-2021, 06:36 PM)Oni Wrote: People tend to meet over common interests/activities, so doing what you enjoy is the best way to meet someone. Dating apps/forums tend to be entirely profile-driven, which isn't a great way to judge someone's personality or character.

It is, if you only have the intention of sleeping with them. Then it's very useful. You don't have to meet up, just look at their photos and decide. You figure this out in about 7 seconds and move on or jump on it. This is how basically all our brains are programmed and we can't defeat it without some neurological issues. It's chemical and physical. I don't personally use any of these apps because of my own OPSEC. I guess sex is a very sought after pleasure in life that some people are willing to give up their security for it or don't care that every dating profile gives your information on a silver platter.

I agree entirely. These sorts of applications are full of people looking for a quick fix (and that's only natural). OP was asking about finding a supposed "soulmate", which is why I wouldn't recommend apps or forums. Doing so would be akin to asking for gourmet, but settling with McDonalds.

(06-14-2021, 04:06 AM)Drako Wrote: I'd say online dating is largely ineffective, especially apps like Tinder. A one-night-stand might work easy enough, but the chances at something long-term is slim. It's much easier to judge a person in real life. That way you're able to have a real conversation and see their mannerisms. I'm definitely not an expert on romance, but I'd like to say that's why a lot of people end up marrying people that they've gone to school with.

People are social animals. Up until about 30 years ago you were forced to find a girlfriend/boyfriend in real life. So naturally we click when we're in-person.

(06-07-2021, 06:08 PM)PiePink Wrote: The last time I registered on a dating forum was five years ago. At that time the impression I got was not very good. I think, maybe now there are more effective and functional applications, which give a real opportunity to find a soulmate?